Discussion on Desire and Sex

Types of Sex and the Role it Plays in Gender Relationships

Sex, or sexuality, is not a mere act of reproduction, but a biological and social behavior in which human beings maintain a close physical and psychological connection with each other, and in which both parties regard the other as a very important person.

If you break down the concept of sex, you can get two meanings: F**king, simple sexual behavior without emotional involvement, only involving physical contact; Making love, sexual behaviors in which both parties who are attracted to each other pursue the union of both mind and body.

The role that Sex plays in intimate relationships also changes a bit with the differences between people and time.

Generally speaking, in the early stages of love, the two partners in an intimate relationship have sex more frequently and more intensely, making the relationship stronger, the willingness to have sex stronger, and both partners enjoy the process more, and sometimes the sex can make up for some of the other problems that have arisen in the relationship.

As the relationship develops into a long-term, stable, intimate relationship, both partners in the relationship will gradually de-emphasize the importance of having sex because they have other more important things to do.

In order to maintain the sex life in the early stages of a relationship, both partners need to have two things in common: they both trust each other very much, and they both value sex and are willing to invest time and energy in it.

It is worth mentioning that the period of time when a woman has just given birth to a child is a time when she is almost completely sexless, mainly due to an extreme lack of sleep, which science has shown to be one of the predictors of the quality and frequency of sexual behavior. An additional hour of sleep increases the probability of having sex the next day by 10 percent.

Frequency, on the other hand, is not a predictor of the quality of sexual behavior.

Different people approach sex differently, and it’s all normal.

Some discussions about desire and the sex drive

There are many ways that a woman (or man) can be sexually aroused, such as specific physical contact, sexual fantasies in the brain, truthfulness in an intimate relationship, a good intellectual conversation, and so on.

In general, the probability of having sexual urges for more superficial reasons such as looks and body shape is rather low, and the probability of having sexual urges for reasons of intimacy, ability, intelligence, etc. is rather high. The reasons for sexual urges vary from person to person.

Generally speaking, with age, all aspects of the body’s functions decline, and the ability to produce sexual impulses also declined. However, we can’t rule out other situations. We have surveyed some elderly people in their 80s and found that as time goes by, their love for their partners becomes deeper and deeper, which makes them more prone to sexual impulses.

The traditional definition of sexual intercourse includes three elements: the sexual organ, penetration of the sexual organ (not required), and ending in orgasm.

If we broaden our thinking and deconstruct the traditional definition of sex, we can get two different definitions: there is some desire to have sex and simply to please the other person, and there is some incentive to have sex and to seek a deeper emotional connection.

The essence of having sexual urges and engaging in sexual behavior is that both parties involved in sexual behavior seek intimacy, strengthen their connection with each other, and ultimately achieve mutual emotional pleasure and satisfaction.

Of the two parties involved in sexual behavior, cisgender men are more likely to be the initiators of sexual behavior and take the lead in the sexual process, while cisgender women are more likely to be the receptive parties.

There are two reasons for this. Physiologically, cisgender men have more testosterone in their bodies, which gives them a stronger sexual desire; and sociologically, it is a more common social phenomenon and a symbol of strength.

But the reality is that everyone is different; some men instead prefer to passively enjoy the sexual process, some women prefer to be the dominant one, and some want to try both roles.

One thought on “Discussion on Desire and Sex

  1. This article is a ray of light in understanding the intricate world of emotions. It’s both enlightening and comforting.

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